Thanks to Catherine for this Frugal Baby Tip!
My boys all trained in their own time, without much of my help.
Bladder control came first, bowel control within the week. They were
all trained from cloth diapers, and never had an accident - day or night - once they were trained. They all trained within a few days of their decision to do so, and closed the bathroom door on my help once they were trained.
My part of the job was letting them observe toilet use, teaching them to put on and take off their own clothing, to be independent and capable. I wasn't totally comfortable with how long they took - but pleased that it worked so well once they were ready!
Jason trained at 27 mths. I got the book - Toilet Training in Less
Than a Day - when he was 18 mths - and worked really hard at it, but
Jason wasn't ready yet.
Michael was 33 months. I tried much harder to be patient with him,
but when I wanted to put the boys into a summer program together -
there was a hitch. They would not take any children in diapers. So I sat Michael down and explained that if he wanted to go to the program with his brother, he would have to start using the potty. This was early May, I believe, and the program began in July. I wanted to give him lots of time. He was trained 3 days later!
Josh refused to even discuss the idea of potty training. He would
change the subject if it was brought up - and leave the room if we
persisted. Yes, he liked wet diapers. Yes, he liked poopy diapers. No, he would NOT let me change him. No, he did NOT want to be a big
Finally - at 4y 5mths. he decided he was ready! Suddenly we were
running to the toilet (no potty for him!) while I was in the middle of laying out a catalogue, running myself - against a deadline!
In just a few days - just like his brothers - Josh closed the bathroom door and he was trained.